List/Grid Monthly Archives: October 2011
Fatherhood
I’ve had the pleasure to interact with men and fathers of all types. As the days, weeks, and months pass, I’m reminded of my childhood and chosen fatherhood. I’ve had conversations with men that want kids, have kids, don’t want kids, accidentally had kids. The conversations have been quite interesting. The stress of fatherhood is a hell of a walk. It’s funny to think about men and daughters and men and sons. I think about…
Breast Cancer Scare (Part Two)
This blog is a follow up to Part One, which posted on October 4, 2011, coincidentally during Breast Cancer Awareness Month. It will focus on my appointment with breast surgeon, Deanna J. Attai, M.D., F.A.C.S., of the Center for Breast Care, Inc. It is intended for women, especially women like me who have dense breasts. At the end of Part One, my breast MRI indicated I was cancer-free, but the MRI doctor ordered an ultrasound…
Be Inconsistent Sometimes
So I spent a weekend having fun with my friends and family. I commented on my theory regarding consistency and relationships. My comedy has evoked questions about how I came to this conclusion. Context is necessary. Consistency. I have this ongoing love affair with my take on love and relationships. One of my intelligent buddies TC put up a Facebook message that told his female friends to stop messing with inconsistent dudes! Hilarious. I agree….
Occupy _________
So I’ve been watching this Occupy thing. And I don’t say that as disrespect. I went down to Occupy Oakland to see the skit. I was curious about what was going on. I was curious about this rubber bullet controversy. I don’t know the politics of Occupy Oakland, but I understand the politics of the Occupy logic. It’s interesting to think about motivated people standing up for whatever they see as righteous. I have to…
High Heels Destroy Love: Love Is Shorter Than 5’11 And Corny!
Thinking about love, relationships, and expectations again. I had a hilarious time at homecoming. I got to see friends from years ago and make new ones. I think about the friendship me and my wife have and the ongoing cultivation of that friendship. I also had a chance to reflect on what brought us together and the elements that can tear us apart. I told some new female friends I’ve made via AY, T,M,T, and…
Morehouse Men
Over the past couple of days, I learned some valuable lessons about friendship, similar experiences and appreciation. I also learned how I did not realize that I had not properly valued my HBCU education and experience. Don’t get me wrong, I valued both, but properly? Probably not. I went back to Atlanta, specifically Morehouse’s homecoming for the first time in 6 years. I missed it and I didn’t realize it until this weekend. I realized…
Mothering to the Other Side: Overcoming Isolated Motherhood
Continuing on the theme of solitude, I am going out of town to attend a friend’s wedding without my daughter. I will say it again: Mama, it is possible. Eventually, you will get your weekend to yourself. I promise. There was a period of time where I was resigned to the idea that I would never again get the opportunity to travel alone or do the things that it seemed everybody else could do because…
Take the Time
I am rarely ever alone. If I’m not with my daughter, then I’m at work. If I’m not at work then I’m training capoiera. If I’m not doing that then I’m with friends. Last night, however, I found myself alone en route to, yes ladies, the spa. Self-care is not only possible, it is absolutely necessary. No matter how feminist or independent we are, mothers still struggle to break out of the “angel of the…
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